Why Mixingle Exists
(And why I'm tired of flaky friends, too.)
Meet Nicole
I still remember the moment I realized I felt alone in a room full of people. It was at a work happy hour in 2018, my fifth year in Seattle. I was surrounded by colleagues, making small talk about weekend plans, when it hit me: I didn't have anyone I could call to grab dinner on a random Tuesday. Or share good news with when something exciting happened.
That night, I went home and googled "how to make friends as an adult." The results? Depressing.
I tried everything:
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Meetup groups (met nice people once, never saw them again)
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Bumble BFF (matched, messaged, ghosted)
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Being the organizer (exhausting, and no one followed through)
I kept thinking it was me. But after talking to dozens of other Seattle transplants, I realized: it wasn't a "me" problem. It was a system problem.
Most friendship solutions were missing three crucial things:
1. Repeated exposure (seeing the same people multiple times)
2. Shared commitment (everyone actually shows up)
3. Low-pressure structure (so it doesn't feel like work)
Meetups had #3 but not #1 or #2. Apps had... well, apps had none of them. Everything felt like throwing darts in the dark, hoping something would stick.
So I Built It
I started experimenting. I researched what actually creates lasting friendships. I ran small test groups. And I realized something:
When you remove the chaos and add structure, flaking becomes weird.
When the same 5-6 people commit to showing up every week, accountability is built in. When activities are planned, there's no coordination exhaustion. When everyone knows what to expect, anxiety goes down.
That's how Mixingle Circles was born.
It's not a networking event. It's not another app. It's a system that turns "we should hang sometime" into weekly plans that actually happen.
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Repetition builds the bond. Consistency beats charisma. And when everyone commits, flaking gets awkward (in a good way).
If you're reading this and thinking "God, I relate to this," then you're in the right place.
Let's fix this together.
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What Makes It Work
Friendship shouldn't be this hard. But it is. So let's make it easier.
Here's what we believe in:
Same people, every week
Repetition is what turns acquaintances into friends. One-off meetups don't cut it.
Everyone shows up
Structure creates accountability. When your Circle is counting on you, flaking feels weird.
Real conversations, real fast
Small groups (4-6 people) + conversation prompts = you skip the small talk and get to the good stuff.
Quality over quantity
3 real friends > 300 Instagram followers. Always.
No algorithms, just humans
A real person reads every application and matches you based on who you actually are, not what an app thinks you like.
